One North Carolina woman has the internet divided after she took to social media with a fiery question that’s equal parts scandalous and concerning. In a now-viral post titled “Is there anything illegal about emailing his job about how he slept with an 18 year old?”, the anonymous poster didn’t hold back — airing the very dirty details of her relationship with an older man and her desire for revenge.
According to her Reddit post, the two had a 10-year age gap, and she claims he took her virginity just months after she turned 18. While legally this doesn’t raise red flags in most U.S. states, including North Carolina, it’s clear that the emotional fallout is anything but clean. The woman alleges she was “used,” and she’s not mincing words about what she wants to do next.
“I just wanna embarrass him like he embarrassed me,” she wrote, adding later in the comments, “I want to ruin his life.”
We’ve all seen messy breakups, but this one takes post-heartbreak chaos to a new level. The woman claims her ex wanted to keep their relationship a secret, something that understandably hurt her. But now, she’s threatening to hit him where it hurts most, his career.
North Carolina Woman Is Out For Revenge On Ex-Boyfriend
“He has a criminal justice degree,” she points out, suggesting that her plan to email his boss and coworkers with the juicy details of their fling would do serious damage to his reputation. But is this kind of revenge legal?
Redditors were quick to weigh in, and most weren’t exactly cheering her on.
One commenter laid it out bluntly, saying, “His work isn’t going to do anything. What he can do is sue you for harassment if you keep bothering him and his place of work.”
“And he did nothing illegal even if you could prove he has sex with you. This isn’t going to ruin his reputation, he had sex with a consenting adult. Just drop it and move on,” another said.
“It is unlikely to have a serious impact on his career, since you are legally an adult,” a third person pointed out.
While the situation is obviously emotionally loaded, especially for someone dealing with the fallout of what she feels was a manipulative and emotionally damaging experience, it does raise a larger question: where is the line between outing someone for questionable behavior and venturing into defamation or harassment territory?
She’s Set On Making Him Pay
Legally speaking, if everything she says is true and she only shares factual, provable information, then it wouldn’t necessarily be considered slander. But the problem lies more in intent. If she sends emails specifically designed to harass, shame, or ruin someone’s livelihood, a court could see that as targeted harassment, and that could open the door for consequences.
Of course, Reddit is no stranger to these kinds of emotional confessions, and while some commenters tried to steer the woman away from making a possibly regrettable move, she made it crystal clear she wasn’t interested in advice.
“Don’t tell me not to do this, I won’t listen,” she wrote. Not exactly the words of someone seeking clarity, more like someone locked and loaded for revenge.
In the end, this scored North Carolina woman’s story is a cautionary tale about mixing hurt feelings with internet access. While heartbreak can absolutely feel like betrayal, public revenge rarely brings closure and often brings consequences. As juicy as it might be to drag an ex, sometimes the classiest clapback is simply moving on, leveling up, and letting karma do its thing.
Hunter Spears 
Kenna Raye 
